Confessions of a woman in her late 20s…
I have studied in a reputed school and graduated from a top college. I have a decent job. I travel in every few months, read books and go out with my friends. Dear Parents, all I want to convey is that I have also some amount of experience (both bad and good) in these 28 years of my existence, which has built my perception about life. There is not even an iota of doubt about the unconditional love you have for me. However, a few of your beliefs have forced me to keep a few secrets from you. I wish I could confess those and pour my heart out in front of you…
I have dated a few men
If you think I should date just one man in my entire life and get married to him, then I am sorry, I have disappointed you. I have dated several men and have had my share of heart breaks. You might be happy (and proud!) to know that I came out as a stronger person after every break-up, and gained clarity about what I exactly seek from a partner and a relationship.
I had clinical depression
Do you remember the time when I used to stay in my room for the entire day and avoid talking to everyone? Well, I had a terrible break-up at that time and was haunted by ‘complicated’ emotions. I could not deal with my feelings and decided to visit a psychologist. And guess what, I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I chose not to share this with you because it would have given you sleepless nights, and I had no energy to explain that it is normal to have ‘mental health’ issues.
I drink, occasionally
Yes, I like to have a few drinks when I go out with my friends. Why do you think it is okay for only men to have alcohol? I am responsible enough to know when to stop, and ensure my safety. In fact, mom, I would love it if you try a few drinks with me some day!
I crave for freedom
Sometimes, living with you makes me feel suffocated. I understand that you are concerned about my safety and security, but do not expect me to return home every day before 8 PM. You do not need to press the panic button if I am late by just ten minutes or have not picked up your call for the first time. I am in my late twenties, and give me some freedom and space, please!
I don’t want to get married
Who has set this rule that a woman should get married by her late twenties and have kids before 30? Every time you talk about a marriage proposal, I feel like confessing that I don’t want to get married. I am still not prepared to take someone else’s responsibility, and am working hard to achieve a few milestones in my career. I am in a happy space and have other priorities in life. Marriage can wait. (Representational images)